A Dream

Today is the 50th anniversary of the March on Washington. I'm not entirely sure how much emphasis this gets in schools anymore, both in and outside of the US. Still, Dr. King's message and speeches are a source of inspiration for many and a rallying cry for any that feel oppressed and ignored within the US.

Now, I'm white. I come from a middle class family. I've gone to college and worked. I've traveled outside of the US. I've also had months where I don't know how I can afford food, worry that the lights are about to shut off, and am trying not to think about where the month for next month's rent will come from. I like to think I've gotten to see a decent amount of the financial spectrum. That said, I know that I haven't ever had to live in fear of my life. I haven't had to worry about losing my job because of my skin color. Or sexual orientation. Or religious beliefs. I haven't had to worry that I may lose my home or fear for my physical safety because of any of these things.

Still, when I got on to G+ this morning, I saw one of the most wonderfully written things mimicking and adapting Dr. King's I Have A Dream speech.

"I have a dream. That we will face our inequalities. That we will admit that our racism, hate and sexism is a product of our fear of the unknown. That all people are worth while, worth the smile and hello on the street, letting that one car in when they want to move over in heavy traffic, and even if we don't like an idea it deserves the respect of a healthy debate. I have a dream that we will judge people on the content of our character but not the way we look, live or work."

My girlfriend wrote that. It both made me smile and remember the reasons I love her as well as give me hope. These are some of the things I hope people strive for. This is part of walking the path. It is another way to say it and another way to look at it. Its truth rings out just as much though.

I wanted to place this thought somewhere I could easily find it again so I could look at it and remember. As this blog is also to share my ideas of the Path I started to walk, it seems appropriate to share this here.

The Center Garden- Forbidden things

The last point I'll make in the center garden is typically the source of a lot of controversy in the US. It doesn't just exist in the center garden though, this is the third part of the Path itself. The first was Elua's lesson- Love as thou wilt. Shemhazai's was the second- All knowledge is worth having. The third is the purview of Naamah- desire and physicality.

As I mentioned in a prior post, the Path is a emotional, mental, and physical thing. The center garden is about yourself. About knowing and understanding yourself and from this, loving and accepting yourself. Naamah's lessons of desire really take bloom in the next garden, but here is where her basis begins.

America is greatly divided on anything regarding sex. There is a perception that the majority of parents don't want to talk to their kids about it. It's suppose to be an adult thing. It's something for after marriage. It's forbidden, taboo, and EVERYWHERE in our marketing strategies. Because we don't want to talk about it, because we're a bit obsessed with it, we send very conflicting messages about sex. So I'll make my stance on it very clear.

Sex is a positive and healthy thing.

And as long as it's between two (or more) coherent and consenting adults (by the legal definition), I don't particularly care how you do it. But we'll deal with sex with other people in a later post. Right now, we're looking at you.

Do you know what makes you happy? Honestly?

So much media noise is about a hetero monogamous missionary couple. We do start to see homosexual partners. But still monogamous. Still, as the kink community would call it, vanilla. Kink is starting to hit mainstream a little with the 50 Shades series. But it's still a scandalous thing. Censorship has little problem with the idea of a guy reaching climax, but heaven forbid the implication of a woman reaching climax without her male partner also climaxing. (Ie- implication of a guy receiving oral vs woman receiving vs a couple post sex) So much noise telling us sex is suppose to be done a certain way and if you don't, you're wrong.

Truthfully, they are wrong.

There is a whole spectrum of ways to be physical. With yourself. With another. With many others. The important thing to remember is, again borrowing from the kink community, keep it safe, sane, and consensual. I'm fairly certain you're not going to hit upon a new fetish. You're not weird if you realize you're not into sex itself or that you can't seem to function without many partners. Ace's and poly folk are out there. The first step is simply learning about yourself.

I could tell you about all the ways you can enjoy yourself. But my perspective is just that. Mine. I have no idea what you may like. For about half the population, I don't even have the required parts to understand it. So I encourage you to learn. The internet is a fantastic resource. Just watch out on the porn sites. It's easy to accidentally see something you don't want.

This is a continual process. Tastes change. Physiology changes. What you didn't like 5 years ago may be something you're into now. Or vise versa. That's okay too. Remember. Learn, understand, accept, love. All parts of you; mental, emotional, physical. If we start to look toward the next garden, those immediately around you, how can you explain your wants and needs to them if you don't truly understand them yourself.

New blooms

Let's take a look at something new today. We've talked about divine ideals, getting to know yourself, and how one either likes or hates the things around them. Let's look at what is commonly thought of as a sin. Well, commonly in Western society. Though I do believe many other cultures look down on this as well.

Pride.

Thought I was going to say Lust, didn't you? Don't worry that will be in a different post.

So. Pride. This commonly comes up when I start talking about getting to know yourself and learning to like and love who and what you are and do. You start to find the things you're good at. You start to enjoy them because, you're good at them. But wait, that's Pride. That's suppose to be bad, right? I mean nobody likes an arrogant ass.

And right there you've hit upon the difference.

Most of the time, arrogance and pride go hand in hand. If you're prideful about what you're good at, you get arrogant. Or so the common thought goes. But think. I'm sure there is at least one person in your life that is simply amazing at something. Cooking, singing, writing, coding, reading, math, sports, the list goes on and on. Now, some of those people will flaunt that they're good at it. Think through the list though. In that list you should find a few that don't. They quietly accept your praise, smile, nod, and move on. Some of these people will think you're being nice. Some know that this is something they're good at but they don't need to flaunt it. What they do speaks for itself. That is the Pride I'm referring to.

From a historical perspective, Pride as a sin makes sense. With a large population indoctrinated against pride, it was easier to exploit lower classes. If they don't take pride in their work, how will they see value in it? Today that societal restriction isn't required to be in place.Yes, there's still class division and exploitation of the disadvantaged and a number of other things. The need for the common man to not feel pride in themselves for society to function is greatly reduced, however. The powers that be will not force you be shunned or beaten or punished for it.

Understand, though, the difference between pride and arrogance. It's can be a very fine one. The simplest comes down to a realistic understanding of what you're doing. It comes back to knowing yourself. Arrogance comes in most commonly when you think you're better than you are and you feel the need to prove yourself. There are times though when it's simply pride with malicious intent. Which, if that's the case, well, go back to the last post and take a look and the ideas of understanding and love.

So really, this is more of a continuation off of getting to know yourself. You're going to find things you're good at. Enjoy them. Take pride in it.

Just keep a realistic idea of it.