The Center Garden- Forbidden things

The last point I'll make in the center garden is typically the source of a lot of controversy in the US. It doesn't just exist in the center garden though, this is the third part of the Path itself. The first was Elua's lesson- Love as thou wilt. Shemhazai's was the second- All knowledge is worth having. The third is the purview of Naamah- desire and physicality.

As I mentioned in a prior post, the Path is a emotional, mental, and physical thing. The center garden is about yourself. About knowing and understanding yourself and from this, loving and accepting yourself. Naamah's lessons of desire really take bloom in the next garden, but here is where her basis begins.

America is greatly divided on anything regarding sex. There is a perception that the majority of parents don't want to talk to their kids about it. It's suppose to be an adult thing. It's something for after marriage. It's forbidden, taboo, and EVERYWHERE in our marketing strategies. Because we don't want to talk about it, because we're a bit obsessed with it, we send very conflicting messages about sex. So I'll make my stance on it very clear.

Sex is a positive and healthy thing.

And as long as it's between two (or more) coherent and consenting adults (by the legal definition), I don't particularly care how you do it. But we'll deal with sex with other people in a later post. Right now, we're looking at you.

Do you know what makes you happy? Honestly?

So much media noise is about a hetero monogamous missionary couple. We do start to see homosexual partners. But still monogamous. Still, as the kink community would call it, vanilla. Kink is starting to hit mainstream a little with the 50 Shades series. But it's still a scandalous thing. Censorship has little problem with the idea of a guy reaching climax, but heaven forbid the implication of a woman reaching climax without her male partner also climaxing. (Ie- implication of a guy receiving oral vs woman receiving vs a couple post sex) So much noise telling us sex is suppose to be done a certain way and if you don't, you're wrong.

Truthfully, they are wrong.

There is a whole spectrum of ways to be physical. With yourself. With another. With many others. The important thing to remember is, again borrowing from the kink community, keep it safe, sane, and consensual. I'm fairly certain you're not going to hit upon a new fetish. You're not weird if you realize you're not into sex itself or that you can't seem to function without many partners. Ace's and poly folk are out there. The first step is simply learning about yourself.

I could tell you about all the ways you can enjoy yourself. But my perspective is just that. Mine. I have no idea what you may like. For about half the population, I don't even have the required parts to understand it. So I encourage you to learn. The internet is a fantastic resource. Just watch out on the porn sites. It's easy to accidentally see something you don't want.

This is a continual process. Tastes change. Physiology changes. What you didn't like 5 years ago may be something you're into now. Or vise versa. That's okay too. Remember. Learn, understand, accept, love. All parts of you; mental, emotional, physical. If we start to look toward the next garden, those immediately around you, how can you explain your wants and needs to them if you don't truly understand them yourself.